Just give it time.
Monday, June 22nd, 2009
by Jeanne Reidy
After a few weeks and too many lost-in-translation conversations with Spaniards, I began to sense what seemed like arrogance from them. They never seemed eager to help with directions or patient enough while I struggled to get a sentence out in my second language. I couldn´t understand why they hardly look at each other while passing each other on the street and say nothing when bumping into you on the Metro. At first, I was completely turned off by the Madrileño culture. Now, I defend it to the core. I can’t get enough. I’m addicted- so much so that I chose to stay in Madrid for an extra two months.
There is no doubt that the Spanish culture is unlike any other. The people are blunt. They will tell you exactly what they are thinking- about anything, without sugarcoating it. They are willing to help, but will not go out of their way to do so. The best way I can think to put it is that they will gladly give you directions, but they won’t hold your hand and walk you there.
At first I was offended by the lack of assistance. For instance, in a clothing store, I couldn’t believe that no one welcomes me and offers to help me find something. Now, I’m thrilled not to have some peppy teenager in my face the second I walk in the door yelling, “Welcome to Store X! Can I help you with anything?” loud enough for her manager to hear that she is actually doing her job. I always want to respond with, “I don’t know if you can help me. I just walked in the door”.
It has taken me time to learn to appreciate the attitude. I used to think their pride was insulting but now I admire it. Their pride is different than any other I’ve encountered. It is not like the American underlining slogan of “We are proud that we are better than you”. It seems more that Spaniards are not trying to be better than anyone else. They are just so proud of their country. This pride is evident on the street, through the enthusiasm at sporting events, in the passion that leads to political protests and demonstrations. The culture has such a contagious fire to it that makes visitors feel like they are a part of it…even if it takes some time to do so.
One of the most impressive aspects of cultural pride I’ve seen has been, believe it or not, on the Metro. Now, I’m sure the streets in my neighborhood in Chicago have their names for some reason or another too. But I don’t know why. All I know is that Pulaski Street was named after Casimir Pulaski and the only reason I know that is because in grammar school, we got a day off of school in his honor. Still, I couldn´t tell you for what he is honored.
In Madrid, the Metro stops, and streets too, are named after influential writers, painters and religious figures. But the difference is that the explanations of their names are provided so as to educate those on the street. What impresses me most are, inside the Metro, the biographies of those who the stop is named after and examples of their work. For example, every day while simply waiting for the Metro, I read about the great painters Velazquez and Goya and admire their work while en route. It is impressive that not only do Spaniards recognize their history, but they incorporate it into their modern everyday life. How beneficial for the children of Madrid to be surrounded by such rich history and be reminded to embrace the pride of the Spanish culture.
Moreover, while on the Metro, riders are surrounded still, by a spread of culture that is generally glanced over. Most recently, I’ve read La Canción del Pirata, by José de Espronceda, and Kafka y la muñeca viajera, by Jordi Sierra i Fabra, while commuting to and from work. If unfamiliar with these works, they are classically famous Spanish poetry, posted around the underground subway. Most people hardly notice the posted culture on the walls of the Metro, but such important works of Spanish literature are clearly appreciated enough to be published around the city and should be recognized. For non-Spaniards, we shouldn’t be turned off by the Spanish pride but take is as an opportunity to take in some classic Spanish culture. All it takes is a look around the Metro.